The Original Act of Love.

Happy Monday fam!

It is common these days to see how a lot of people are obsessed with romantic love more than love for God. You may even think that falling in love is more influential and beneficial to you than finding your life’s purpose.

This kind of mentality is the number one reason why many relationships fail or don’t work at all. It makes me wonder if romantic love is a myth.

I mean, is it a lie that there is a magical other out there who can miraculously change your life once you find and see them?

Such a hard question huh!

Anyway. Yesterday, I was doing a quick Google search with keywords like marriage, divorce and, Kenya.

I explored the search results down the first page.

I concluded that most first marriages end in divorce. And I assume it’s the same in some other parts of the world. Could even be worse. I also know that most non-marital relationships normally end in painful separations. On top of that, I have observed today’s dating climate and I think it is ugly to see how a lot of people are using each other only for sexual pleasure and financial advances. I don’t think it is wrong or even bad altogether to use each other like that by the way, lol! But it’s the deep consequences that many may not be ready to handle. Consequences that can run deeper than the body and the transactions.

What I am telling you, Nick’s letters reader and subscriber, is that loving and valuing yourself is the first act of love. If not the only real one! And don’t get me wrong, this does not mean you shall live a single and bitter life without romance. No.

What that means is that you need to first find God, (your higher self) before finding love. Ever heard of the expression born alone die alone?

But nowadays, what most people unfortunately do is live in fear of being alone or losing their romantic partners when they choose the path to a higher self.

Therefore, overcoming your fears even with or without being in a romantic relationship is the original act of love.

Some call it self-love.

Some call it self-care.

Others call it selfishness.

But it does not matter. What matters is every individual striving for the best version of themselves so they can impact the world and help heal the burning soul of the world. It can be a simple thing like starting a biz. Recomposing your body and eating healthily. Or just anything to improve you on a personal level. And all these have nothing to do with celebrating Valentine's through spending and showing off!

These acts can be summed up into what we have been calling; self-work.

Being able to take part in self-work must come before any romantic engagement.

A young man, for example, would accept that his success in dating largely depends on his financial and spiritual condition. And the lady is not off the hook! She would accept that a good relationship requires a certain level of mindset and inner work.

Anyway, don’t even take me seriously because I am biased.

To read more biasness and how fear is working in your life, and how you can potentially overcome that, head over to my personal blog.

Read; This is How Fear is Working in Your Life.

Until next week.

Nick Osale.